How to Start Writing Your Rough Draft

00:01 - Lynn (Host)

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Welcome back to another episode of Publishing for Professionals. I am super stoked about today's episode because I'm always excited about guests, but I'm super excited about having this guest on for several reasons, and one is because this is my first Book Blueprint episode, and a Book Blueprint episode is a guest that comes on that is writing a book and wants to ask me questions about writing and publishing their book. And so today I have a wonderful guest on. Her name is Janet. Janet is an amazing coach. You definitely want to talk to her.

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She is a family relationship therapist. She's a dating mentor and a sex talk educator. She is a podcast host and has 20 years of education and experience and a decade in relationship therapy. She blends deep professional expertise with raw personal experience and love, sex, intimacy and emotional communication. She is fabulous to talk to, janet. Welcome to Publishing for Professionals and what a lovely way to welcome me. I'm super excited that you're here for our first Book Blueprint episode. Today we are going to talk about how to organize your information in your book and write your rough draft, because a lot of my clients are just stuck on like how do I start my book? So, janet, let's just jump into it. Like what are, what's some of your initial questions about hey, I've got these ideas in my head and I want to make it into a book.

02:27 - Janet (Guest)

I don't want it to be boring. That's the thing, lynn. So the structure needs to be able to have some sort of flow to it and I'm not really sure how to do that and put my story, you know, which is based around me spending the first 50 years of my life being a sexual mute, based around me spending the first 50 years of my life being a sexual mute. How do I put all all that together, as well as putting some psychoeducation in there to help and support people, sort of like a more of a stepping? How do I do the stepping stones to tell my story so that it all seems to make sense? I mean, it feels overwhelming, really, to try and think where do I start?

03:13 - Lynn (Host)

And let's look at like what you're trying to write first. So let's look at like the focus of your book. So the focus of your book is gonna be a memoir, so it's gonna be a nonfiction, correct? So you're gonna have a nonfiction memoir that's also educational, because you want to teach people things that you have learned along your personal journey about being sex positive and how to express yourself in dating and relationships and just being comfortable within your own body. So what is the? Is the? Is the purpose of your book to be like a lead magnet for your business, like you want to hand it out to clients and say, hey, this is what I do, this is who I am, and obviously like for people to buy it on Amazon and know who you are and say, oh, I want to reach out to Janet because I want to work with her yeah, well, there's that and it's all.

03:56 - Janet (Guest)

It's also about my experiences and I mean, when I was 50 and I ended up in a relationship with a sex and a porn addict, that was the catalyst, and I think there's a lot of women out there in particular who will be going through what I went through with body shame and how can I help them.

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The body shame is because you're always comparing yourself. You see where you're in a battle with porn. Porn becomes the enemy and it's you can't understand it. So that they can understand and have more of an education. So, although I want it to be part of my story, I want to be able to give people an education, to be able to support them and if they want to come and work with me, they can come and work with me. But I'd like to be able to have something that would enrich their existence and know that it's okay to feel what they're feeling, and to be able to have something that would would enrich their existence and know that it's okay to feel what they're feeling and to be able to have some strategies to to grow.

04:51 - Lynn (Host)

So what I'm hearing, what you're saying, janet, just to make sure that I am clear on your message is that you have you have your story and that, as you're telling your story, you want people to like, you want also to interject in. That's like. You want to figure out how do I interject in the story, the lessons I learned and how someone else can learn these lessons and prevent these things from happening. But you want to learn how to make that into a succinct flow that is interesting for the reader to read and they can understand it, but also educational, but not be so complex. People get lost in the story in the story.

05:24 - Janet (Guest)

Yeah, I don't want it. I don't want it to be complex. This is, this is the thing that I don't want to be. It's this theory or that theory. I just want it to be in lay terms so that anybody can can get an understanding and to be able to implement some of these things in in their life If they're going through those situations of which I've got a feeling.

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There's lots of women who might be, and men might be, having issues with porn, and the women might be hating on the men, but they don't know. There's a reason for all of that. I'd like to be able to get that into really to reduce the shame around these sorts of relationships, shame around these sorts of relationships and to reduce the shame. One way to do it is to give the education around. How I got to that point? Because I was in a trauma bond relationship. You see, my story has pockets of different types of trauma. I'm always one for looking for gifts and the only way that you can find a gift is to use your awareness and to have some techniques you can embed into your life.

06:32 - Lynn (Host)

You want to figure out, like how you can tell those trauma stories to be a part of the teaching and the lesson, right, but not be overwhelming for the reader when they're going through and reading it, but having enough of an impact that the reader feels like, oh, I understand what Janet went through when she did this, even if that hasn't happened to the reader.

06:52 - Janet (Guest)

Yeah, because they might have had it in some sort of similar way by being rejected. Because part of the process for me was being continually rejected by somebody who I thought was my partner and didn't know what was going on behind the scenes. I was very naive.

07:07 - Lynn (Host)

Let's say I was very naive when you said that, I'm thinking of my daughter's partner, my youngest daughter's partner, because he's like super sweet and very nice, but yeah, he has that naive thing and so it's. It's very easy for people like that to take advantage of people who don't know right, because you just don't don't know, like if you knew, then you would be like, oh, this isn't right. So you want to tell your story, you want to have enough of the story in there that you obviously you want to tell the story how it happened in a way that's interesting to the reader, that's very clear for them to understand how this lesson that you're teaching them applies to that story. And that's actually a very. I just spoke with somebody yesterday, another woman who just signed on, and she has the same thing. Like she has this big life story and she wants to teach people what she's learned through all of these experiences and how, like what she thought was what she learned out of them. That was positive and what she thought like oh, I would have been much better to do without this. And that's really hard to discern, especially when it's your story, because you're so personally attached to it. You're like, okay, well, what part of my personal story do I need to share to be effective? And what part of my personal story do I not need to share Because it's not going to A make a better impact for my book or on my listener or my reader, or B it's just going to be it might be too much information for them to take in, right, it might not help with teaching, the teaching aspect, the educational piece of your book.

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So I would say one of the things you can do to start with organizing is just to start a timeline. What part in your timeline, jen, do you think would be a good place to start this story? Because it doesn't have to be your whole life, right, like it doesn't have to be. And also, the other thing with choosing when you're going to start your story is you can start your story at age 40, if you wanted to, or 45. And then when you get to a piece where you need to explain backstory, you can explain a little backstory as you go, so you don't have to start. I was a child at age three and this is how, like, my life went right, because we don't need to know your whole life story to get a lot out of that, that reading that information? Right, we did. The reader just needs to know the context that applies to have enough background to refer to it when they're reading your story. So what part do you think fits that the best to start off your story like what range um?

09:33 - Janet (Guest)

well, there's a few points that come to mind. I could start from 50, when I left teaching and met this, this new partner. Or I could start as you see, because because also it's it'll have generational trauma that I've brought in through my irish background. I could start um, it's how, it's, how interesting it makes. Should I start more ancestral?

10:02 - Lynn (Host)

oh, I see what you mean. Yeah, are you thinking of like, maybe either doing 50 or starting out with the ancestral piece?

10:08 - Janet (Guest)

yeah, I, could start older, or because the story actually starts before I was born, you see, when I was adopted. Because the story is of adoption, you could start with the day that I was born to being born into grief. I haven't been born love.

10:25 - Lynn (Host)

I think that's actually a really powerful place to start, because typically when I tell people, they're telling me Sterling, like you don't have to tell it from the beginning, but because you were adopted. I think that's a fabulous starting point because it really immediately drives home to the reader you, this was not. You were born into a family and had a brother's like right, like this is not typically what people are born into. So I think starting at that point in your life, like talking about like I was born and I was an orphan and I was adopted by a family, puts you in a very special category that you already started off life really hard, like you didn't have any advantage starting off like that in life. So I think that's a really great hook for a couple of reasons. One is because it's going to pull the reader in and have empathy for you and say, oh my gosh, janet really had a rough start to her life Like and here she is, like you know, having a podcast and writing a book and like doing all these things Like that's an incredible starting off being an orphan and now you're doing all these things like she's clearly done a lot for herself, and so I think that's a great starting point is starting out like hey, I was an orphan and blah, blah, blah.

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And then you could actually jump from that piece in that chapter one to like go to age 50. And now here I am. You know, I started off an orphan. And now here I am, at age 50. I just left my teaching job and I met this guy who was a predator. But I didn't know that because I was born an orphan and I never learned like my families that I was with, I never got taught this X, y, z. So now I end up here at 50 in this predatory relationship and then start telling like what happened. And then you can kind of like off and say like and do some lessons maybe along the way. But what's your next question you have for me, janet, if you were to do like starting off with your adoption and then and your orphan and then going jumping to 50, like what would be, you think, the next step in writing your story?

12:20 - Janet (Guest)

yeah, and I think that being the 50s important because I didn't realize the impact of my adoption until I was 50. It was getting it. It was getting into that second relationship. Well, it wasn't, it was a third relationship, but I recognized that all the relationships that I got into were a low level intimacy. Because I had low level intimacy, because I was feared of getting close to anybody because of being given away. And then I could actually go back to start to recognise all those points. Yeah, there's a back and a forth, isn't there? It's how do you navigate it where you want to, you know, being in the presence of being 50, maybe, but then recognising that this didn't start here, this, this and me not knowing, and me being clueless, shall we say to, to keep going back into a story that helps me to understand who I am.

13:15 - Lynn (Host)

The piece of advice I usually give people who are writing a book like yours is that the best way to do it is like to set up this timeline so you have your adoption, and then, like realizing how your adoption affected you and your relationship, and write that timeline out and then brain dump that right. Like brain dump all that information down and then go back and be like, okay, what pieces need to be rearranged? Or like, oh, I can put this little lesson into this spot and then keep going there and then you can come back and then go through and edit it again. And so stories like this do take more editing, just because, a it's very personal, right, and B you have to figure out what you want to share, what you don't want to share. Because I had a client who wrote a memoir. He was like, I want to share this, I don't want to share this. So he went back and forth a lot figuring out what he wanted to share and what he didn't want to share.

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As you're writing your story, you can be like, oh, this would be a good spot to say, okay, and then this is what happened before, to give people context. So you can actually figure that out as you're going along. You don't have to know all the details of your outline from the gate, right? Does that make sense? That's one of the things I would definitely recommend for writing your book. I think the other thing would be, when you're doing your rough draft, don't overthink what you want to put in your book or what you don't want to put in your book, because I always say it's better to put more information down for writing a book for this purpose, right? It's easier to write it all down and then take out the information, because you don't have to completely cut it out. That's another thing.

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Some of my clients be like oh, I just have to completely cut this out, you can take it out of your story. But what I always recommend for clients to do is just put it on. We literally have a document in Google that says extra content and put it in that extra content piece and just title it so you know what topic it is. So that way, if you're going through another edit and you're like, oh wait a minute, I had this story I took out and it didn't fit in this chapter, but I think if it's really good in this chapter, that way you can take it out and put it in a chapter that it better fits, or you might not use it and that's okay. One of the things I like to tell my clients a lot is that don't be judgmental of like yourself as you're writing. Like don't edit yourself, because editing yourself as you're doing your rough draft and just doing your brain dump will just kill your creativity, because you're going to constantly overthink like what you're like is this right?

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Is this right? Is it like as you're writing it? Definitely just do the brain dump, think about it and then, if there's anything you need to move off into that extra document, you can do that and then bring it back later. Or vice versa, like if you say, oh, I'm going to add this into this part of the story, you can do that as well. We're going to take a super quick break right here, but when we come back we're going to talk more about Janet and her book journey. So hang on and we'll see you just in a minute.

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Hey, my friends, this is Lynn Liquidy and we are back for our first book, blueprint episode, and we're with Janet, who is a fabulous therapist, and she is a fabulous coach. Definitely want to check her out. I've got her Instagram up here. If you are watching this on YouTube, all of her links will be in the show notes below and or in the YouTube comments below. So make sure that you reach out and connect with Janet if what she's saying is interesting to you, because I love. I love what Janet does. Okay, so, janet, before the break, we talked about putting together your story and how to organize it a bit, with adding those little pieces in as you go along and not overthinking it, just writing it out. The next question that's coming up for you as far as writing your book yeah.

17:25 - Janet (Guest)

The next question is you know, without putting any pressure on myself, how, how much should should it be writing? You know, should I aim to do so much a day? Should I? I don't know. Is there a, is it a guideline, so that there's a flow?

17:39 - Lynn (Host)

in the writing. So that's a great question and that that comes down to like a writing habit, one I always suggest to people like writing habits are like good sleep hygiene, and if people are listening aren't aren't where good sleep hygiene is. Also, sleep hygiene means is like the good habits you do to get yourself ready for bed, making sure that you're you're calm before you go to bed, and all this. A good writing habit would look like you want to write in a space that doesn't have a lot of distraction. For you, I never write in my bed. I don't do any work in my bed because of sleep hygiene.

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Right, bed is two things for me. One is sleeping and the other one is not working or watching TV. So that's one thing is you want to work in a space that is free of distract, relatively free of distraction, that you're comfortable in, that you can be creative in. That is really calming for you, because the more calming the space is, the more your creativity can flow. The other thing is is pick a time of the day where you write the best. For some people it's late at night, for some people it's like 6am in the morning. So whatever time, you know you are at your like mental and brain best. So what would be a good time for you, janet, based on your natural biorhythms and how you know you're creative? Yeah.

18:50 - Janet (Guest)

I think I work.

18:51 - Lynn (Host)

I think I work quite well in the morning okay and so would you think you work well in the morning. Like, right when you get up, would you have to, like, go out for a jog and eat breakfast and then work. Like, what do you think would work best for you to carve out a time that would be consistent?

19:07 - Janet (Guest)

if, if I, if I could get up at the same time, I could bolt it on straight away after. This is what they do. That. That is a technique where you put it to something you already do. I meditate every morning. I could do it.

19:20 - Lynn (Host)

I could do have a period of writing straight away after I've meditated oh, and that's actually a fabulous time to do it, because your head's so clear for meditating. That's excellent. Yes, so, yeah, so tagging it on to another habit you already have is a great way to make a new habit.

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right, Because you already have that in place, and so all you have to do is okay, after I meditate, I'm going to write. Now, when you sit down, Del, do you like to write? Do you like to sit down and write? And it's okay if you say no, because a lot of my clients don't like to write on a scale of one to ten.

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One being like oh my gosh, I would rather change my cat's litter box than write. And ten being like yes, if I'm gonna have fun, this would be one of the top three things I would do to have fun. Where does writing fall for you, janet? No.

20:04 - Janet (Guest)

I probably think about six maybe okay.

20:08 - Lynn (Host)

So if it's a six, I would say start small. So maybe you're sitting down writing for 10 minutes or 15 minutes, right, so and it's, and so you don't have to sit down for like an hour or two hours. So maybe 10 minutes a day. Right, after you meditate, you sit down and you write a little bit or you organize or do whatever it is in that. 10 minutes, 15 minutes. You can do that every day. You can do that three times a week. You can do it like Monday through Friday and then take the weekends off. Or you can, monday through Friday, you write 10 minutes a day, and then maybe on Saturday you sit down and write for a half an hour.

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Right, you need to make a schedule that you're comfortable with, that it's not overwhelming for you. Because if you sit down and be like, okay, I like to write like six out of one to 10, but I'm going to sit down for like two hours a day, right, you're going to get burned out Someone going to the gym who hasn't been to the gym and they start lifting 500 pounds, right, it's not going to be good. So you want to figure out a good, consistent habit and time that's going to work really well for you that you can keep up with and feel comfortable with. So would you say like 10 or 15 minutes a day would be something that you would be comfortable sitting down and doing?

21:09 - Janet (Guest)

Yeah, I could probably do a little bit more Sometimes. When I don't want to work, I sometimes say I'll just do an hour if I'm doing something, but once a minute staying it. But I think with the writing I think if I aimed for 15 minutes I built it up to half an hour, really great.

21:27 - Lynn (Host)

Yeah, and that's another option you can do too. Like if you say, okay, I'm going to do 15 minutes every day and some days you don't have a half hour in your, that's fine because you hit your goal. 15 minutes, right. So like, make your goal really easy to attain, so you feel successful. But then on the days you're like, oh, I'm ready for 15 minutes, I can go for more, then go for it. Right, if you, 15 minutes doesn't sound like a lot.

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But if you write for 15 minutes a day and you do that every day for a year, you're going to get your book done pretty quickly, like the rough draft anyway, right, you're going to make progress, and that's the point is not to say like, oh, I only have a year to get this done, but just not to put it in a focus of like. Unless you have something like a TEDx talk or something right that you want your book for, then you have a really hard deadline. But unless you, if you don't have a super hard deadline, don't put that pressure on yourself to be like, oh, I have to have this out, because just the fact that you're doing that good writing habit and you're moving forward with it, with the consistency, is that's the whole goal is just to be consistent and move forward. So if you're writing every day and you do this for like 15 minutes a day, the other option you can do, instead of just sitting down typing.

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Typing is you can write yourself an outline of what you want to write about and then talk it into like your microphone, and then transcribe that on like Otter or any of the like, the transcription services, and you can use the automated one. You don't have to use the person one that's more expensive because the automated ones are really good right now and then you take that and you can copy it and put it in a document. However, with that part you do need to do obviously a little more cleaning up, because it's a transcription and the transcription can't just directly copy into book content. So that's another option. So how would you feel comfortable doing like the audio piece, janet, or do you think you feel more comfortable doing the sitting down and typing piece um?

23:08 - Janet (Guest)

I could probably have a go at both, but I do like the option of speaking into something that I don't have to type or be as if I'm at a computer. I could just get my phone and start to, so I think a mix of both would work for me.

23:25 - Lynn (Host)

Okay, awesome, yeah, and you can do that too. You can do a mix. You can try, like one week maybe try the audio and see how that works, and then the next week. Because I always tell people, if you're going to try two different things, don't flip, flop the days, because you could be having a bad day and be like, oh, audio didn't work, but it wasn't because of the audio is because your day wasn't going very well. So I try to try it for a week.

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Maybe try starting off with the audio, because I know you're a podcaster, so that you are very comfortable with talking with your voice, and so start that and do that for a week, and then the next week try typing it out and then write, like your pros and cons list. Like, once you get done a week of audio, make a pros and cons list and physically write it out Like what did I like about this, what didn't I like about this? And then just keep writing until you can't think of anything else, and then the next week start typing it out and then at the end of that week do your pros and cons list Be like what did I love about typing it out and what did I not like about typing out Because it seems like a lot of work and it is it's front loading. But if you do all this work in the front, it's going to be so much easier for you moving forward in your book, because you're going to have a system and you're going to have it down.

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You're like, I know it works. For me, that's really the important piece is just finding what works for you to write your book. What would be your next question that you have for like writing your book, janet?

24:35 - Janet (Guest)

I can just see all this writing and then me having to edit it. Is there a process? Should you edit as you go along? Should you edit once a week? Should you edit at the end? I don't know what.

24:47 - Lynn (Host)

Yeah personally writing my own book. What I do and I also recommend this to my clients is I say, if you have an idea to write something new, write something new. If you sit down and you're like you know that chapter I wrote yesterday, I think it needs to go back and get this week because I just thought of this after I wrote it, then go back and do that. So there's no like you feel like, oh, I need to write more new content, do that. If you feel like you need to go back all the way to the beginning and change something, then do that. Just don't get caught up in decision thing and be like, oh, I don't know, should I do that, shouldn't I do that? If you get really caught up in something, write it down and put it aside and then do something different, because one of the things I know that I see with all my clients is that they get caught up in something, then that ends up really stifling their progress.

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And then they just stop writing their book altogether. And that's when I hear people come back to me and they say oh, I've had this book and I wrote it like 10 years ago and I just picked it back up, right, Because they were so anxious about writing the book that they couldn't even do it anymore.

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I can imagine it feels big. That doesn't it Right? Exactly, you don't want to make your book feel so big, it's overwhelming, right? You want it to be like okay, this is a big project and I'm working on it, but it's exciting because I'm biting it off in little pieces. Yeah, I like that technique. Yeah, we have time for another question, If you have any questions about like writing, like writing your book and editing.

26:13 - Janet (Guest)

If I was to put quotes and things in, I mean, is that something that would happen afterwards, or can I start to gather different sources of information? I feel like I want it to be what things weaved into it. Can that be gathered as a go along?

26:35 - Lynn (Host)

Absolutely yeah. So what you can do and what I always suggest people to do for like quotes or pictures or any type of added content that's going to bring value is to have a separate folder and to put, like all your quotes you want in that folder. Now, the one thing I always recommend to my clients with quotes if it's your quote, that's awesome, because this your purpose of your book is to be a lead magnet, right, you don't want to have. One of my clients was writing and the start of every chapter of his book was a quote from somebody else. So I'm like you're making that other person look like the expert.

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So, while it's fine to have quotes from somebody else in your book, I wouldn't start out a chapter with it and I definitely wouldn't put it in every chapter. So, if you're going to have a lot of quotes, make it either be from like your clients that you've gotten permission from to put their quote in your book like written permission, because you want to have that to keep yourself CYA right To cover yourself. And then the other thing is is you can have quotes from like that you said on your podcast or that you have like in your head. Right, this is a quote from you, so that reinforces that you are the expert in your field. And while it's fine to have, like Maya Angelou or whatever, in your book, you don't want to start every chapter with that and I would say, don't start a chapter with it and don't have every chapter. Have a quote from somebody else yeah, that's.

27:43 - Janet (Guest)

I hadn't thought of it like that, yeah great.

27:45 - Lynn (Host)

Well, this has been great. So do you feel like you've gotten a lot of value? This has helped you kind of get like a good start on like where you want to go.

27:56 - Janet (Guest)

Well, it does, because I feel encouraged, to feel inspired to start, because I've got some ideas that I've put on a document and I've got some bits, but I haven't had a, I haven't had a structure or, like you've explained, to sort of have it embedded into something that you do in the week.

28:10 - Lynn (Host)

So it becomes a very natural process, Because the more natural it becomes. Then it's like oh, now I'm a writer, because I'm writing every day, right? Like see yourself as a writer If you don't do that for a living. For me it's very easy to see myself as a writer because I do it all the time. But like if you, if that's not your profession, then you have to get into the habit of doing that and be like.

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Then you have to get into the habit of doing that and be like okay, this is what a writer does. I'm being a writer writing my book, so that's super important. Well, Jad, this has been fabulous. I love having you come on today as my guest to help you with just getting started on your book, because so many of my clients get stuck right in the beginning like exactly where you're at, they're just like I have all these great ideas and I don't know how to organize them.

28:47

So I know you have a freebie to give away to my listeners. Can you tell us where can people find you and what is the freebie you're giving away? We will definitely put a link to your freebie in the show notes below.

28:57 - Janet (Guest)

Well, I've created a quiz to help people understand the love patterns, the survival love patterns that they are running, so that they can make more conscious dating decisions and they can be safer in their dating experiences. I work with a lot of couples and families who are bringing love patterns that aren't from the heart they're more survival love patterns into the relationship and that's stopping the intimacy. So I'm all about um sort of family and intimacy, relationship intimacy so people can have closer connections. So I've made a quiz and also with the quiz you'll you will end up finding out what sort of blueprint you are, whether you're an overgiver or, um, a dreamer, and that will influence your behavior in relationships.

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Training video then that comes at the end of that, which explains relationship, energetic and some explanation about the blueprints and how they fit in and how you can grow from them so that you're actually dating from your heart. So it's a decoding process so that you can find the voice that's truly you and you can connect from your heart. Be predator, wise dating situations. You don't really know the signs of a predator and I think that's really useful very early on to recognize I'm going to have survival love patterns here and I'm not aware of them, become aware of them, because if you're an over giver, you're going to meet an overtake. Put all that in there to really help people in the dating experience so they're lifelong daters and not short-term maters, as I would call it.

30:43 - Lynn (Host)

I love that, and it's not just and it's actually good for people too who, even if you haven't experienced trauma in your childhood or your life, to like, learn that, because a lot of times you will encounter people in your dating life, especially females. Right, if you're a male dating a female or a female dating another female, you're going to encounter people in your life that have that experience of trauma and this quiz could actually help you, help them. And or if you're dating somebody that, like, has trauma, or you yourself have trauma, you can use this as a guide to help you out of that space. So I think I think this quiz guide your, your guide is absolutely amazing and I would definitely recommend anybody who is in the dating space, or even if you're not in the dating space and have a relationship, to try this out and definitely to contact Janet. So, janet, where can people find you to get ahold of you if they're looking for that? For?

31:31 - Janet (Guest)

your, your service. They can find me on Instagram. I'm on LinkedIn if you're a professional and you want to improve your relationship, so they're probably the places. But I also have all my digital products and my services on Stan's store, so it is Stan's store, the Groovygram.

31:52 - Lynn (Host)

Got it and we'll put all those links in the show notes below. Well, Janet, thank you so much for coming on today and sharing your book journey with us. It's really exciting and I know this has helped a lot of people who are listening to this help get started on their journey.

32:04 - Janet (Guest)

Yeah, brilliant. Thank you very much for inviting me.

32:07 - Lynn (Host)

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